Indeed, facing challenging times often triggers a natural human instinct to resist and question the circumstances with phrases like “Why me?” or “Why now?”

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The frustration and even agony that come with difficult situations are undeniable. However, as you suggest, there might be an alternative perspective worth exploring.

Rather than succumbing to resistance, one could consider embracing a different approach. This alternative path involves reframing the situation, seeking lessons in adversity, and cultivating resilience.

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Instead of dwelling on the “Why me?” questions, one might ask,

“What can I learn from this?” or “How can I grow stronger through these challenges?”

This shift in mindset doesn’t deny the difficulty of hard times but acknowledges the potential for personal and emotional growth that can arise from adversity.

It’s a powerful perspective that can lead to greater resilience, wisdom, and a more profound understanding of one’s capabilities.

As we all know, the truth is that pain and suffering are part of our lives. Embracing those things makes us undefeatable.

As we all think about small things, I see people becoming more and more vulnerable compared to ages ago. Now, the resilience and mental strength of humans have declined dramatically, which is part of the discussion nowadays.

Even though I am a human, I do have lots of pressure in my life, which is very challenging in life to tackle. I started to adapt and incorporate this philosophy and psychology into my life, which make my life better.

The stoic philosophers had a unique approach to life’s challenges. Friedrich Nietzsche was a German philosopher. Among many things, he’s known for the phrase amor fati — which translates to “a love of one’s fate” or a deep acceptance of what happens in one’s life.

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In Ecce Homo, he wrote:

Nietzsche wasn’t the only one to approach life in this way.

Epictetus, who experienced disability and the life of a slave, said:

To not only accept what happens in life — especially the hard times — but to embrace them seems like a foreign concept.

The fix, solve, control mindset

In our ambitious world, there is a persistent idea that we ought to immediately fix, solve, and control every outcome to never feel pain. The reality, though, is that a controlling and fixed mindset can eventually cause so much emotional suppression that it bubbles over.

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The idea that we must immediately solve every discomfort can be unhelpful, yet it’s an accepted idea in our society. It’s almost synonymous with self-sufficiency and having things ‘figured out.’

Going through therapy has taught me how problematic it is to not accept emotions. I’ve been taught how important it is to welcome everything with an openness to learn and listen.

I hope your dream never dies.

I am going to turn 19 soon.

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How we can learn to accept

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To incorporate amor fati into your daily life, start by acknowledging the events you cannot change and finding value in them.

Practice gratitude for both your successes and struggles. When faced with adversity, ask yourself what you can learn from the situation and how it can help you grow.

Accept what happens

Amor Fati encourages us to embrace everything that happens in our lives, both good and bad, and see it as an essential part of our journey.

Nietzsche said that amor fati is the “formula for greatness in a human being.”

He believed that life is full of challenges, setbacks, and triumphs, all of which shape who we are. By adopting Amor fati, we learn to accept and even love these experiences, regardless of their nature.

Ways to Practise Amor Fati

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• Stop resisting your current situation

• Reframe difficult situations as opportunities

• Find the lessons in every obstacle

• Breathe deeply and dig into the present moment

• Cultivate positivity

• Check-in with yourself often

In a world fixated on immediate solutions and control, this mindset encourages us to acknowledge the unchangeable, finding value and lessons in both success and adversity.

By adopting Amor Fati, we transform challenges into opportunities for growth and resilience.

So, dear readers, let’s stop resisting, reframe difficulties, and breathe deeply into the present moment.

Cultivate positivity, check in with yourself often, and join me on this journey of embracing and loving every aspect of our lives.

I recommend this to you “Beyond Limits: Your Journey to Abundance Starts Here”

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